What should you ask couples before the wedding?
Ask for the things you can't guess on the day: who matters, where everyone will be and when, the moments to be ready for, and anything that needs handling quietly. Send it four to six weeks before the wedding, and only include the questions that fit that couple's wedding and the coverage they booked.
We put together a free wedding questionnaire for photographers and filmmakers: 34 questions across six shared sections, plus a photography add-on and a film add-on. Copy a section, download the editable text, or print it. It's free to adapt for your own business, with no signup.
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The rest of this post explains what's in it and why, so you can adjust it for how you work.
When to send it
Four to six weeks before the wedding is a useful starting point. Adjust for your planning process and leave time to discuss anything unresolved. Sending it much earlier can mean revisiting details; leaving it until the last week gives everyone less time to act.
Send it with a clear due date, ideally two weeks before the wedding. That leaves time for a final call to go over anything confusing, and time for you to build a shot list or plan your audio before the week of.
If a planner is involved, ask them for the official timeline directly. It'll be more accurate than the couple's best guess, and the planner will appreciate being asked.
What's in the questionnaire
The questionnaire follows the wedding day in order, so couples can work through it the way they'll live it. Here's what each section covers and why it's there.
The people, before the plans
Start with who matters, not addresses. What names they'd like you to use (with pronunciation if it helps), the people you should make a point of spending time with on camera, and anything you should handle quietly. That last one is the question that saves you from an awkward family grouping or a toast nobody should have heard about. Couples can share it privately on your planning call instead of writing it down.
Locations and timing
The date, who's coordinating the day, every location with its address and access details, and how people get between them. The smartest question here is a request for the latest timeline link. If the planner already has one, the couple shouldn't have to type the whole day out again.
Before the ceremony
Where each of them is getting ready, who's with them, whether they want a first look, and any private moments like letters or gifts. Two getting-ready locations across town can change your whole coverage plan, so you want to know early.
The ceremony
Who's officiating and how to reach them, the running order, and anything personal or surprising. The detail that matters is often a cue, not a time: knowing who walks in when matters more than knowing the ceremony starts at four. This section also asks about the weather backup and who decides whether the ceremony moves.
Photography add-on: family photos without the roll call chaos
Each family combination on its own line, using names instead of "Mom's side." Who can gather people for each group so you're not shouting names across a lawn. Anyone who needs a seated portrait, step-free access, or an early photo before leaving. And how much time the couple wants for portraits of the two of them.
The reception
Who's running announcements, what events are planned and in what order, when and where your team can eat, and what the end of coverage looks like. A speech that starts while you're in the other room is hard to get back, so the questionnaire asks who will give you a heads-up before each key moment.
The final check
The vendor list (a planner's contact sheet is perfect), any privacy preferences about sharing images or film publicly, what's still undecided and who's handling it, and one last open question: what haven't we asked that would help us look after you and your guests?
The film add-on: making room for the voices
Video needs a few answers photography doesn't, and most of them are about sound. The film section asks:
- Which voices would mean the most to hear in the film years from now: vows, a reading, a toast, a quiet conversation.
- Whether they'd like any words recorded privately, like reading a letter to each other.
- Who's providing sound for the ceremony and speeches, so you can coordinate with them directly.
- Whether there's anything they'd rather not have recorded, or anyone who's asked to stay out of the film.
Notice what it doesn't ask: which microphone to use or how to patch into the DJ. That's your job, and you should sort it out with the venue or DJ yourself. A microphone being in the room doesn't guarantee a usable recording, and the couple shouldn't have to figure that out for you.
How to get couples to actually finish it
A questionnaire only helps if it comes back. A few things make that much more likely.
Trim it for each couple. The template has 34 questions across shared planning sections and optional photo and film blocks. A couple only needs the questions relevant to their wedding. Cut what doesn't fit the wedding or the coverage they booked, and prefill anything you already know, like the date and venue. Every question you leave in is one more reason to put it off until "this weekend."
Give them permission to leave gaps. Tell couples it's fine to mark anything undecided as TBC, to link the planner's timeline or vendor list instead of retyping it, and to save anything sensitive for your planning call rather than writing it in a shared document.
Make it easy to open. A link that works on a phone, with no account to create and no password to remember, gets filled out during a lunch break. Anything that needs a login or a laptop gets saved for later, and later becomes the week of the wedding.
Give a due date and a reason. "Please send this back by May 1 so I have time to plan your family photos" works better than "whenever you get a chance."
Follow up once, personally. If it's not back a few days before the due date, a short note usually does it. Couples aren't ignoring you. They're answering a pile of vendor emails every week.
In Bower, questionnaires go out as private links that open on any phone without an account, and the answers save straight to the wedding's Project, right next to the contract and the payment schedule. You can build your questionnaire once as a template and reuse it for every couple.
Frequently asked questions
When should I send a wedding photography questionnaire?
Four to six weeks before the wedding, with a due date about two weeks out. That's late enough that the timeline is mostly set and early enough to plan around the answers.
How many questions should a wedding questionnaire have?
As few as that couple's wedding needs. Our free template has 34 questions, including optional photo and film sections. Trim it for each couple and prefill what you already know.
What's the most important question to ask couples?
The family photo list, written with names, and anything that needs handling quietly. Getting those wrong is what couples remember, and it's the part you can't fix in editing.
Is the questionnaire free to use?
Yes. Copy a section, download the editable text, or print it, then adapt it for your own business. No signup. It's a template to put into your own form or document, so it doesn't collect couples' answers itself.
Download the free wedding questionnaire
Try Bower free for 14 days and send your questionnaire as a private link couples can fill out on their phone.